Day 109: Learning To Say No


 Sometimes when I say no I feel guilty, when someone asks for help involving money for example, although I have to remind myself I am not the only person in the world that they can ask for money and above all I have to assess my financial situation before I can say yes.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel guilty when I say no to someone

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to say yes to people to not feel guilty 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to be a savior

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feed my ego whenever I help someone with money

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compromise my situation with money whenever I say yes and I can't afford it to give money

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that I can't always 'be a savior' of whoever asks me for money

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not say 'I'll think about it' whenever someone asks me for money, giving myself time to assess the situation

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that unless I learn to say no I will be the slave of others

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that unless I learn to say No I will never truly be free

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to say yes whenever I want to say no and then blame the person that asked me for help

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame the person I helped for my financial situation instead of saying no from the beggining

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that unless I say 'I have to check my situation' before saying 'yes' I will not give me time to assess the situation properly

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that I don't have any obligation towards anyone in terms of money for example, or otherwise

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to help everyone that asks me for help

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to associate No with 'negative' when it is not always the case

I commit myself to remind myself I go first

Whenever I see that someone asks me for money, I stop and I breathe, I realize I must assess my financial situation before giving money, and that I am obviously not a bank

Whenever I see that someone asks me for money, I stop and I breathe, I realize that no one helped me when I needed myself - so I must not compromise my financial situation for anyone else

Whenever I see I want to help someone, I stop and I breathe. I realize I must help myself  first, and not giving away money is one way to help myself

Whenever I see I want to help someone, I stop and I breathe, I remind myself that I have objectives and goals that require money, so I cannot give money at the moment

I commit myself to remind myself I am not a bank that loans money

I commit myself to remind myself most people won't return money given

I commit myself to remind myself I am by myself so can't compromise my finances for others

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